Two lovers enter into an intimate conversation early on in their relationship:
He asks, “Are you afraid of falling in love?”
She answers, “Not with you.”
He asks, “Why’s that?”
She answers with a smile, “Cause I know you will catch me when I fall.”
There is something tender in allowing yourself to fall in love. There is also something magical in knowing that the other person will not hurt you. Love is not a power struggle, an ego booster, or a platform for ownership. It is about letting go and allowing Spirit to perform its pursuit for the betterment of your heart’s desires.
I’ve had the privilege to be among many friends. Some of them have entered into new relationships. They beam with energy, excitement, romance, and that mystical union of two people getting to know each other. In both relationships I witnessed something that had never been there before: appreciation and admiration. There is kindness, generosity and mutual respect. Like a Tango dance, one needs the pull and pushing, the give and take, the seduction and the closeness all mixed into a rhythmic dance of divinity. The hopeless romantic in me smiles with admiration at that harmonious partnership.
I can’t say that I’ve been accused of not loving enough in my relationships. I give all of me, sometimes too much, because I am not met half way. And, when I am done I can continue to move past the hurt and realize how beautiful the lessons were for the betterment of my spirit. I’ve been fortunate that on some occasions after moving on the person has shared that I loved hard (and it wasn’t so much me that “broke it” but their own insecurities and self-loathing). I can’t shun away from love because of past relationships. I am in a beautiful healthy one now. If I had stopped the idea of love, closed my heart completely, I wouldn’t have met this incredible counterpart of my journey!
How many times have we passed on the idea of love or getting to know someone just to regret it later on? How many times have we allowed ego to dictate our heart’s desires to then realize that the person was actually “The One?” The past is a wilderness forest. Many of us choose to stay there because of fear of the unknown. We are afraid to move past the forest into the open spaces and allow the heart to guide us. In that paralyzing fear of holding on to past events, we lose the chance to meet a counterpart of our divinity to be loved.
I always find the “falling in love” part easy. It’s the staying in that place of vulnerability that is challenging. Every day, as I meet more people entering into loving relationships, I believe I am attracting that energy into my own love life. I refused to settle for someone who could not meet me half way in my heart’s yearnings. I wasn’t willing to compromise my self-love for anyone. It’s taken me too many years to repair and rebuild self-worth and love. It has taken me a lifetime to realize that simplicity, kindness, intelligence, openness, and laughter are prerequisites for my soul mate.
This man sees me as a hippie chick, a deep romantic, and/or a trusting spirit. I know that the falling in love part is the best drug in the world when shared with someone who has my best intention at heart. When it is easy, soft, appreciated and graceful there is no other place I would rather be. The alternative of having him passed by was not an option.
Allow yourself the gift of openness, trust, vulnerability and diving into the arms of love. You never know who will be there to catch you when you fall!